August 28th, 2010
dear del my girlfriend who is pregnant is very bossy and she constantly lies to me and its been going on for a while even before she was pregnant and i have been hearing she is a cheater and she has cheated on me and i realy dont want to be with her and there is this girl that i realy like like whenever i see this other girl she just lights up my world but my girl friend has the tendencies to lie when a relationship goes bad and say her boyfriends raped her and cheated on her i just dont want to end things and not be able to see my baby what should i do?
Dear Jake,
Well, you can’t have it both ways! If you leave your girlfriend you may have to refute any gossip she says about you and you take the chance that you can’t see your baby. But if you marry your girlfriend and then apply for a divorce it is likely the judge will give you shared custody. You should never have gotten your girlfriend pregnant! Or you can stay in a miserable situation, still see your new girl, but if your present girlfriend finds out she can still make your life miserable and not allow you to see the child. You are between a rock and a hard place. Good Luck!
Sincerely,
Del
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August 23rd, 2010
Dear Del,
I got pregnant in August of 2008, the father and I were completely excited, we were completely in love, he acted so happy for the first two months, but that October he slowly got more and more distant. I tried to talk to him multiple times, but things just kept getting worse. Eventually we were living together but I felt all alone, so I kicked him out. I told him to grow up and act right or don’t come back, and he tried for a couple months after that, until he broke a promise he had made to me and I told him I didn’t want anything to do with him until I had proof that he had grown up. We didn’t speak again until our daughter was almost a year old, she was born in May of 2009. Within that year, he got married, then divorced, then he moved to an ajoining state. When we started talking again, I noticed a few changes, but not his maturity. He still acts like a child sometimes and it bugs me. I’m a mother, I have one child and she is wonderful, but I’m too young to feel like I have to play mommy to him too. So I don’t know if I should actually give him a second chance or not. He wouldn’t be able to move back this way for a few more months due to work obligations, but if I wanted him to, he would move back the moment he was able to put in for a transfer. I still love him with every peice of my heart, but I don’t know if I can handle any of the drama I feel starting everytime we’re together for more than five minutes. I really need help figuring out what to do. I mean seriously, no offence but I feel pretty desperate asking someone I’ve never met, and through a website no less… Not really my way of dealing with things, but no one else I know has this kind of problem, nor have they ever, they’re either happily committed or anti-commitment.
Thank you for reading, even though I’m probably super lame,
LeeAnn Smith
Dear LeeAnn,
You don’t sound “super lame” to me. You sound like a very smart and strong woman. Even tho you love him you realized his shortcomings and kicked him out (as you should have). He does sound very immature, and instead of marrying you, the woman who had his child, he goes and marries and divorces someone else! How outrageous!!! DO NOT GIVE THIS MAN ANOTHER CHANCE! There are plenty of fish in the sea - find another one that is worthy of you! Good Luck!
Sincerely,
Del
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August 22nd, 2010
Dear Del,
hello,my girl friend and i are very much in love and we have a wedding date planned down the road. problem , she still talks about and talks to her old boy friend {whom she saids that she cares for but isent in love with andi told her i dont care and she shouldent be in conntact with anyway }and two days a go i look at her email and found she had been talking graffic sex with him i had brought this to her attention and and told her that it dissrespectful to me ,her,and our relationship and she needs to chose him or me . at this time we have seem to have things worked out but the trust is a big issue for me now .i also told her she can not have any conntact with him in any way. i want to askher if she has broken all conntct with him and i want to see proof , i love her and i need advice, please help
Dear Jim,
After you have planned your wedding “down the road”, she talked graphic sex with him, what did she say when you told her that it was disrepectful (I would have used a much stronger word), to you? If she could do such a thing when you guys are talking marriage, I would certainly understand your trust issue, as well as questioning her love for you. You guys really need to talk this out. Maybe you don’t know her as well as you should. Her behavior indicates to me that she is rather shallow and immature. Good Luck.
Sincerely,
Del
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August 22nd, 2010
Dear Del,
I’m a man 50 years old; I have got married since 20 years ago. before one year my sexual relation with my wife was normal; but now I have a big problem, it is abbreviated by: I don’t have a Sexual Desire or Erection; unless:
1- To imagine, myself, I am not her husband but I’m one of her freinds is fucking her so in this case I feel a full of Sexual Desire and Erection.
2- To watch someone is sniffing her underwear (pants).
3- Or by taking pictures for her naked body and show them in gallary of pictures via internet and count the views who see her body.
I know it is wrong do I need your help.
Sencerely
Fawzi Ahdab
Dear Fawzi,
Having fantasies is natural for both men and women. The first two are all right to THINK about if that turns you on, but the third one is definitely NOT RIGHT as this would expose her to everyone! If the first two work for you then your problem is solved but be sure you NEVER tell her what you are thinking. If you still need the last one, do NOT do that but seek the advice of a professional sex counselor.
Sincerely,
Del
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August 22nd, 2010
Dear Del,
My GF doesn’t like to perform felatio on me. What can I do t omake it more enjoyable for her?
Dear Bill,
Well, first, let me ask you if you perform cunnilingus on her? If not, don’t expect the same from her. If you do, I really don’t know of any way to make it more enjoyable for her if she doesn’t like it, but I could suggest that if you already don’t do it for her, start and if she gets a lot of pleasure from it she may be more likely to do likewise, but don’t ask her to swallow! Another way is to give her $100 (or more if you can afford it) every time she does it. But this may make her feel like a hooker and she may object to that, or she may even like the idea! Good Luck and let me know what happens.
Sincerely,
Del
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August 16th, 2010
Dear Del,
I am a married man. About 2 years a go I meet this woman at work and it was not long and we were having an affair. We feel in love and are in love to this day. The problems comes because she is in a relationship to that is very abusive he has locked her in the basement chucked her calls her names all the time he threw her off the boat and onto the duck brusing her legs about 6 inchs round. I am currently seperated from my wife. I have tried talking to this woman but it has done no good. She tells me that if she leaves he will find her and possible kill her or drage her back to the house he has also threatened my life. I neeed some advice on how to handle this sitution can you help. I am very worried about her. She says she loves but is affaired of what he will do if she was to leave. Can u help me
Dear James,
She has to leave and get a restraining order against him, and you should too. Ask the police what other options you may have.
Sincerely,
Del
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August 16th, 2010
Dear Del,
I am a married man. About 2 years a go I meet this woman at work and it was not long and we were having an affair. We feel in love and are in love to this day. The problems comes because she is in a relationship to that is very abusive he has locked her in the basement chucked her calls her names all the time he threw her off the boat and onto the duck brusing her legs about 6 inchs round. I am currently seperated from my wife. I have tried talking to this woman but it has done no good. She tells me that if she leaves he will find her and possible kill her or drage her back to the house he has also threatened my life. I neeed some advice on how to handle this sitution can you help. I am very worried about her. She says she loves but is affaired of what he will do if she was to leave. Can u help me
Dear
She has to leave and get a restraining order from the police and so do you. This is a terrible situation. Ask the police what other options you may have. Good Luck!
Sincerely,
Del
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August 16th, 2010
Dear Del,
My fiance and I have a 7 years age difference and compared to some others that doesn’t seem like a big deal. I have been hurt a lot in past relationships and I guess I still carry a lot of that with me. I am only 22 but I have matured beyond my years. A lot of people say I am a 40 year old woman trapped in a 22 yea olds body. I tend to agree with that. My fiance is almost 30 and lately we’ve been arguing a lot. I’m not sure exactly what my question is, I just dont have anyone to talk to about all the things I feel and what other people see when they look at it from the outside. We aren’t hardly ever intimate and when we do have sex I feel like he just wants me to stop pestering him for it and is in a hurry to get it over. I don’t fear that he is cheating on me. I just dont undestand why thingsare the way they are. Lately I’ve been wondering whether getting married is a good idea. I just got divorced a month ago. I just need some serious relationship advice. I’ve only been in 2 seious relationships and I’m starting to wonder if I can handle a third.
Dear Ashley,
You just got divorced. Don’t make another mistake and marry your current fiance! If you are hardly intimate now just think how it will be if you marry him! Get rid of this man! Don’t marry anyone unless you are sure they love and desire you. Maybe it’s his problem but you certainly don’t want to continue with a man who has such a problem and acts like he’s doing you a favor! A normal man in love does not act this way. I’m surprised that you do not realize this, especially if you are like a woman of 40. Please leave this man and seek some professional advice if you can afford it because you don’t seem too knowledgable in the ways of men and love. Good Luck.
Sincerely,
Del
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August 11th, 2010
Dear Del,
ive been in love with my friend for over3 years hes not even cute!problem is hes 5years older and has a girlfriend. i love everything about him im depressed when were separated what do i do? i want to cry
Dear Olive,
Well, if he has a girlfriend, that’s that, I think. If he is interested in you he will let you know. Move on.
Sincerely,
Del
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August 10th, 2010
Dear Del,
About 6 months ago I cheated on my wife. For whatever reason I went through a period of about a-month where I came out of my body and started acting in ways and doing things that just were not me and this was one of the results. It may have been a mid0life crisis but it doesn’t matter what I did was wrong and I know it.
Less than a week after this occurred I told my wife about it and since then things have been a real struggle. We are in marriage counciling and even thinking about extensive councling. My wife says she wants to forgive me and move on but she just can’t seem to let this go.
Every now and then (About once a week) she has a major melt-down where she becomes someone I don’t even recognize swearing and tells me to leave, then she breaks down and crys and tells me to forget what she just did.
We have been married for 30 years and together for 37 years (We just renewed our vows) and both of us want our relationship to work.
To complicate things more I was with (2) women during that period of time. My wife only knows about the one, my question is should I tell her about the other? She is devistated already and telling her may push her over the edge.
What do you think?
Dear
First of all you never should have told her - that just relieves your conscience and upsets her terribly and she will never forget it even tho she forgives you. She will probably never trust you again. Most definitely DO NOT tell her any more about any other indescretioons! I suggest you get professional help with your strange behavior.
Sincerely,
Del
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