Dear Del,

I moved to a new city a few months ago and I knew absolutely no one. I became friends with my companies secretary quickly because in my career field people our age are uncommon. We have been growing pals over the last few months with nothing physical between us up until this past weekend. We went out as has been our ritual but ended up sleeping together while both of us were pretty drunk. Things just haven’t been the same or they don’t seem to be. Maybe it’s just me I don’t know. I would much rather have a good friend than a booty call. Any advice?

Dear Pat,

I can’t tell by your name wether you are male or female but I’ll assume your male since you said “secretary” and that is usually but not always female.  In any event, whether gay or straight, you need to talk about what happened and decide if you want to continue to be intimate or just be friends.  You must talk, as you are working together and you want to be comfortable with each other in the workplace.

Sincerely,

Del