Dear Del,
Here goes… I was in love with a boy in high school…we dated thru high school when i became pregnant he told me to have an abortion,it would be the only way we could stay together so I did and he left.. I moved out of state and spent many years in couseling over this guy. well I married he married and we did not see each other for 20 years and thru out the years he would try to contact me but i was married and did not want to go there again but i have to say he was anis my one true love weel after all thses years we started talking again we both divorced and the the process i lost my daughter { her father was awared custody] i feel that i lost everything because of this man i moved lost my job self respect. i’m a mess now. hes cheated with his ex wife over and over hes called me and my children horrilble names i even had him arrested for abuse. whats wrong with me even after all this i think about him all the time i cant get him out of my head. what can i do to stop this insanity i must forget about him but how
Here goes… I was in love with a boy in high school…we dated thru high school when i became pregnant he told me to have an abortion,it would be the only way we could stay together so I did and he left.. I moved out of state and spent many years in couseling over this guy. well I married he married and we did not see each other for 20 years and thru out the years he would try to contact me but i was married and did not want to go there again but i have to say he was anis my one true love weel after all thses years we started talking again we both divorced and the the process i lost my daughter { her father was awared custody] i feel that i lost everything because of this man i moved lost my job self respect. i’m a mess now. hes cheated with his ex wife over and over hes called me and my children horrilble names i even had him arrested for abuse. whats wrong with me even after all this i think about him all the time i cant get him out of my head. what can i do to stop this insanity i must forget about him but how
Dear Monica,
If you both got divorced I wonder why you didn’t get married to him. Why would he call you and your children horrible names? Without knowing these things, the only thing I can say is he is obviously not a decent man and if you can’t get him out of your head it means that you have a problem and should seek additional counseling to find out why you can still care for such a man. When people care for others that abuse them it means that they have no self-respect and don’t think they deserve better. I hope you seek help to get this man and any future bad person out of your life and get someone who treats you well because you will find out in therapy that you deserve that.
Sincerely,
Del