Dear Del,

My significant other does not want to accompany me to a family birthday.. Also in the future, says he will not go to Halloween, Christmas or other family celebrations. This hurts since these mean everything to me, especially since I am now a senior. Help’

Dear Virginia,

Does he give his reason for not wanting to do this?  Do you think he has lost feelings for you?  Are there any other signs that he is being distant, etc.?  If you have been together a long time, perhaps he is tired of doing these things or maybe he doesn’t like or get along with your family.  You must talk with him and find out why and tell him how much it means to you for him to go with you.  If he is the non-communicative type, it will be difficult but you must impress upon him that it is very hurtful to you and if he cares enough for you, perhaps you can come to some sort of compromise. 

Sincerely,

Del