Dear Del,

hello,my girl friend and i are very much in love and we have a wedding date planned down the road. problem , she still talks about and talks to her old boy friend {whom she saids that she cares for but isent in love with andi told her i dont care and she shouldent be in conntact with anyway }and two days a go i look at her email and found she had been talking graffic sex with him i had brought this to her attention and and told her that it dissrespectful to me ,her,and our relationship and she needs to chose him or me . at this time we have seem to have things worked out but the trust is a big issue for me now .i also told her she can not have any conntact with him in any way. i want to askher if she has broken all conntct with him and i want to see proof , i love her and i need advice, please help

Dear Jim,

After you have planned your wedding “down the road”, she talked graphic sex with him, what did she say when you told her that it was disrepectful (I would have used a much stronger word), to you?  If she could do such a thing when you guys are talking marriage, I would certainly understand your trust issue, as well as questioning her love for you.  You guys really need to talk this out.  Maybe you don’t know her as well as you should.  Her behavior indicates to me that she is rather shallow and immature.  Good Luck.

Sincerely,

Del

DEAR DEL,

MY HUSBAND HAS AN EXWHICH HE HAS ONE KID BY.SHE CONSTANTLY DOES SNEAKY THINGS TO GET US FIGHTING.NOW SHE MOVED NOT TO FAR FROM US I NO IN HOPES TO GET HIM BACK.AND HE EATS UP ALL HER LIES. HE’S VERY SWEET BUT I’VE HAD IT WITH HER TRICKS THAT HE JUST CAN’T SEE

DEAR EVA,

IT’S DIFFICULT TO STOP A HUSBAND FROM TALKING TO HIS EX WHEN THEY HAVE HAD A CHILD TOGETHER.  MY ADVICE WOULD BE TO SPEAK YOUR MIND TO HIM AND TELL HIM HOW UNHAPPY YOU ARE WITH THE SITUATION.  IF YOU CAN PROVE TO HIM THAT SHE LIES AND DOES SNEAKY THINGS, THAT WOULD BE GOOD.  IF HE LOVES YOU HE WILL DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY.

SINCERELY,

DEL

Dear Del,

what does it mean when a man still brings up his ex even 5 years later

Dear Abby,

Well that depends how he brings her up and how often.  It could be innocent - maybe he was married to her for many years.  You don’t give me much information but if it bothers you, you should tell him.

Sincerely,

Del