Dear Del,
just found out my spouse was involved with someone else, how could I react to that besides negatively
Dear April,
No other way!
Sincerely,
Del
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Wednesday, August 12th, 2009Dear Del,
In March I started dating a 26 year old guy. He had been married before for only 6 months and despises his ex-wife. I hear about it all the time it seems. I am 24 and most of my friends are getting married and having children. I really have dreamed of nothing more but being a wife and mom and think I would be great at it but I’m just not sure I’ve met that special person. Well this guy I am dating is now my boyfriend and has been so for about 3 months. In March after about 2 weeks of us dating he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes at first but then later said no not yet just because I had a feeling he was not being faithful only to me. As it turns out about the middle of April I found out he was dating a 19 year old girl that worked at Hooters (we went there a lot to have drinks). After that blow up he said she meant nothing to him and really all it was was a physical (sexual) realationship with her and that I was the one he wanted to be with. I said I would try and forgive him for that and move on. Well we are boyfriend/girlfriend now and I can’t let that go. Everytime Hooters is meantioned it brings up those feelings about the other girl. I feel like there is a dagger going through my heart everytime I think about her and I get really upset. I can’t let it go the fact that he was dating me and I was thinking we were subclusive and he was having sex with me and then another woman behind my back. He still goes to the Hooters where she works sometimes with his guy friends and I get upset everytime. I hate to keep throwing the past at him when we get in arguements but how do I get over this and let it go? Also he doesn’t have a job, is living with me for a couple of weeks (suposidly) and owes me about $1300 of money I have leant him over the past 5 months. I feel like I am being used and I feel so stupid. I am a successful woman in every other aspect of my life except for relationships. Do you have any advise for what I should do to get over the fact that my boyfriend sort of cheated on me and h!
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stop being used? Thank you.
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stop being used? Thank you.
Dear Em,
You are both so young! He cheated, he lives with you, he has no job, he owes you money. What more do you need to know that he is a user and a loser? Get rid of him!
Sincerely,
Del
Wild Wife
Tuesday, July 14th, 2009DEAR DEL, ME AND MY WIFE TO BE ARE TEN YEARS APART AND SHE WAS ALSO A LIL OUT THERE MESSIN AROUND WITH ALOT OF GUYS EVEN THOUGH I LOVE HER ALOT I JUST HAVE A FEELIN SHE IS STILL DOIN THE SAME THINGS SHE STILL HAS DA SAME WILD FRIENDS AND STILL STAYS OUT LATE..SHOULD I LEAve her OR JUST DEAL WITH IT. HELP ME PLEASE
Dear Tavon,
I am assuming that it is you that is ten years older. Can you talk to her about how you feel? You should and if she loves you she will consider your feelings and do what makes you happy. But in every relationship there has to be compromise. Maybe she could still go out but not stay out late and maybe you could make new friends who are not so wild. It seems that you two do not have enough in common to sustain a good relationship. So, yes, deal with it first and if she doesn’t want to compromise or change, you should probably either leave her or stay and cope with it, but I would leave.
Sincerely,
Del
Hooker Wife
Monday, July 6th, 2009Dear Del,
I have been married just about 2 years now and I found out a short time after we got married that my wife had been having sex with men for money because we were in debt. (Our wedding was real expensive, and she still had some credit card debt from school) We also had a car that we picked up while I was in the Marine Corps and it was more than we could afford after I got out, but we were stuck in a lease contract that we could not get out of. Anyway I confronted her on it and she stopped, (or at least I thought she did) We ended up moving to Nashville, TN from California, and she started doing it again when we were having trouble with money. So we argued, fought and I said how I didn’t want her doing this stuff, we ended up moving about 6 months later, to Vermont to finish both of our degrees, problem is she has her bachelors degree, and is working on her masters, I am working on my Bachelors, and anyway she is now doing it again, I caught her sending an email about giving a blow job for $50 to a guy in a truck. Also that she posted on Craigslist a few of them as well for stuff.
Dear Jacques,
After all that info, do you have a question??? If your wife chooses to have sex with anyone in order to pay your bills and you are ok with that then stay; if your not ok with that and you tell her to stop and she doesn’t then leave!
Sincerely,
Del