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Dear Del,
My fiancee and i are living together now for 9 months. We’ve been together 1 yr. and 3 months. We’re in our late 40’s. We’re both attractive people and we both have our share of flirting looks from the opposite sex. For the past seven months he has made eye contact with women and goes beyond one look he grabs their attention and i see the flirtatious looks go back and forth from 3 to 5 times sometimes. I can be sitting next to him and he can even be holding my hand and kissing me. I notice the women first and then I’ll turn at him and notice he’ll turn away. He’s done it numerous times. It doesn’t matter where we are. One of my friends noticed it. He comes home every night and we always go out together. It’s really bothering me now. I spoke to him about it and he denies that he’s flirting. We haven’t made plans on our wedding but I’m starting to believe he really doesn’t love me.
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Dear Rebecca,
He must have some kind of need to keep doing this especially when you have told him how it’s bothering you. You need to sit down with him and tell him again that this is really an issue that is bothering you and don’t let him off with the denial that he’s flirting. Tell him what you just told me and that you are seriously re-thinking marriage with him. Be sure in your mind that he IS flirting and that it’s not your own insecurities.
Sincerely,
Del
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