Questions related to ‘Love with a Married Person’

Unmarried Man Wants to Leave But Afraid to Lose Kids

Saturday, May 15th, 2010

Dear Del,

I am involved with a man who lives with the mother of his children. I love and he loves me but he has yet to make any plans of leaving her. Thay are not married and he says he sleeps on the couch, there is no physical contact at all. He says he wants to leave but is afraid she will keep his kids from him. I really love this man. What should I do?

Dear Theresa,

He needs to talk to an attorney.  When unmarried people have children and want to separate I believe they have to go to court and ask for joint custody.  I don’t know for sure how this works.  Maybe he’s just using that for an excuse.

Sincerely,

Del

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Let Go and Cry a Lot!

Sunday, September 20th, 2009

Dear Del,

how do i let go of a man i dated who was seperated then reconciliated with his wife.i want him back in my life,but,will not be with a married man.this has caused me so much pain and confusion maybe resentment too.

Dear Kimberly,

If he is back with his wife for sure and you won’t date a married man, then you have no alternative but to let go.  I know you’re very hurt and resentful but things happen to all of us that hurt and anger us, but  if we are mentally and emotionally healthy we grieve and cry a while and move on.  I cried for 2 years over a lost relationship.  It is important to feel your feelings and resentments, but then move on.  Believe me, time cures everything.

Sincerely,

Del

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A Real Mistress

Sunday, August 23rd, 2009
Dear Del,
Hi, I’ve been seeing this married for about 10 months already, he is very charming and classy. we go to nice Restaurants and the best Hotels, he has taking me travel with him and we have great sexual chemisttry. In the begining he told me he is still with his wife just for the kids, its been 10 months now and I dont know if I should ask him about his wife. We see each other twice a month since he is very busy wt his job and kids, he does call me every other day and sometimes have phone sex too. I like him a lot but at times I just feel like an “Escort girlfrien”. Should I enjoy the moment and forget about his wife?
Dear Rosie,
Yes, enjoy the moments but don’t fall in love with a married man!  You shouldn’t feel like an “escort girlfriend” as he is treating you very well like a real mistress and you are obviously getting a lot out of the relationship what with the best dinners, hotels, travel, and chemistry to boot!  A lot of women would envy you.  The one thing that may be troubling to you is that you may feel guilty regarding his wife.  Many women having affairs with married men say that if it’s not them he is cheating with, it would just be someone else.  If you feel this way and have no guilt about it, then continue, but I cannot say that I approve of anyone having an affair with a married person is right.
Sincerely,
Del

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He’s Married, You’re Not

Friday, June 26th, 2009

 

Dear Del,
 I am in love with my sweetheart going back to 1962 we have been reunited for the past four years and having a sexual relationship for over two and half years. Actually I am a little crazy about him and always been he says that he has tought of me everyday for the past 40+ years. When we did finally see each other he held me and asked if I wanted to see what I’ve been missing for all these years and the best kiss was laid on me. That evening my husband–is my ex at this time–and my friend + wife all went out for dinner and I fell off my chair–still couldn’t believe that kiss! Ok the next day we were in a Hotel for over two hours and how nice that was. That was the beginning of our very close relationship and after two and half years we still do have our time in the bedroom but my ex called and spoke with the wife and Bill, hasen’t spoken to me since about June 19th. What do I do and why isn’t he talking to me this is not fair at all I just love him and want us to be together. We both have waited so long and we are good for each other. There is so much more but I’ll wait to hear from you and then there is much more. Especially about the wife and how she holds him up with all of the money issues etc, she started to have affairs the first year that they were married and told me from what she can remember there have been 7-9 and not with men. She is a mess and I do not understand why he is really still there. He was with the Military for 28 years and then with the Sheriffs Dept in El Paso Texas
I really do love him more that I thought was possible. Do you need his name: Bill Wilkinson and mine Sue Walker
Dear Sue,
Your letter is most confusing!  Please re-read it to yourself and see if you can make it more clear.  I don’t know whose wife you  are talking about, is it Bill’s?  So you are now divorced and free and Bill is still married? Who hasn’t spoken to you since June 19?  Your ex spoke with Bill and his wife?  If I’ve got it right it looks like your ex may have said something to Bill and his wife and that is why he isn’t calling you.  Maybe he wants to stay with her and just have you on the side.  If that’s ok with you,fine but if it’s not just forget about him and move on.  There is more than one great lover in this world, believe me!  If you still need to write me again please make it shorter.  Thank you.
Del

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What are his Intentions?

Thursday, June 18th, 2009

Dear Del,

What if you have fallen in love with a man who is still married but keeps telling you that it is going to work out for us but hasnt done anything after two years, what is his real intentions?

 

Dear Linda,

You tell him to call you when he can come over with his divorce decree in hand.  His intentions are to keep having sex with you while he is still married.  Don’t be a fool - the world is full of single women waiting for married men to divorce their wives and most of them never do!

Sincerely,

Del

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Love with a Married Person

Wednesday, May 20th, 2009

Dear Del,

I was involved with a married man for 6 yrs, then found out he was seeing another woman. I ask him about it and he said it was just lunch. Needless to say I let him have it. I told him I knew that woman was interested in him and he blew me off. I know I was wrong because he is married, she is engaged. I love this man, but now I am seeing a man, but I can’t get the other one out of my mind. We work at the same place different shifts. I do well for a month or so then I talk to him and my emotions get all screwed up. The man I am with is good to me altho he is a little rough talking makes remarks that if I cheat he will beat my butt..I have told him not to talk to me that way. I know I should not talk to the other man and try and work this relationship out. I just can’t get him out of my mind. I was married for 30 years then divorced. Am I just being crazy???

Dear Billie,

In a word, yes!  Since he blew you off you have no alternative but to try very hard to put him out of your mind and try to avoid him at work.  Be careful of this new man as he sounds like he would resort to violence if you did anything he didn’t like.  Get to know him a bit better and then if you don’t like him, move on.  There are plenty of fish in the sea!

Sincerely,

Del

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