Dear Del,

I need help. I’m in college and was with a guy for two years. Suddenly, he told me that he can’t handle being in a relationship right now.

I loved this man so much. We had so much fun together and I’d thought that he might be the one. Now that we aren’t together, my heart hurts so much, and I feel like I want to kill myself. My whole world revolved around him. And I feel like I’ve been attacked from behind with this, because I had no idea of how my ex felt about it. We have classes together and I’m going to see him every day. What do I do?

Dear Kate,

I am so sorry that you are hurting.  Obviously his feelings didn’t match yours.  It takes a long time to get over someone you’ve loved but, believe me, time cures everything.  You are young and you WILL get over him but it will be hard because you have classes together.  Try to change your classes as soon as possible so you won’t see him every day.  Don’t be afraid to cry a lot as crying is a release of your feelings.  Don’t hold your grief in.  You are young and you will meet someone else to love, I guarantee it!  I’ve been there!  Good luck, girl.

Sincerely,

Del

Dear Del,

Well I dated this boy for 2 and a half years and we broke up around March and I had never loved anyone like I love him. I have tried dating people since we broke up but I always end up becoming unattracted to them even if I had really liked them before we started dating. It seems like since I was hurt so bad my body just wont let me love again. What can I do?

Dear Tiffany,

When I broke up with someone I loved very much it took me two years to get over him and let someone else touch me, so give it time, sweetheart and remember, “time heals all wounds”.  You will love again!

Sincerely,

Del

Dear Del,

I am seperated from my life partner of 25 years.I was incarcerated for 4 years.During that time,she found a new boyfriend at work.After being recently released,she is helpful and emails me with things I need from our house,etc.I live at another location.However,she will not see me? She dropped off some of my jewelry at my building and told the front desk person that she didn’t want me to come down because she doesn’t want to see me.Also,one article of jewelry was my engagement ring returned at her suggestion.Is it the boyfriend,guilt,or anxiety the reason she doesn’t want to see me? I never push the point and try to be understanding to her.What do you think and thanks.ELS

Dear Eric,

You don’t say what you were incarcerated for.  Well, whatever it was, she obviously doesn’t want to renew your relationship and doesn’t even want to see you.  I cannot read her mind and neither can you, but what difference would it make?  At least she was decent enough to return the ring you gave her.  Let it go.  It’s over. 

Sincerely,

Del

Dear Dell,
I have been dating a man who is 17 years older than me. I just recently broke up with him becsuse he can’t seem to get over his ex-girlfried. He continues to go out with her and when I question him about it, he will tell me she and I were friend before we became lovers and now we are friends again. They had a business relationship also but that is no longer. I miss him but I can’t stand the fact that they are seeing each other. The last straw was when we were at his place drinking wine and the phone rings and it was her. He answered the phone by saying “I was just thinking about you” and he went to another room to talk to her but came out and started pacing while he was talking to her and the rest is history. Do you think what I did was the right thing to do? He says I’m just jealous.

Dear Pam,

I think it is very wrong and insensitive for him to keep dating her and especially to say within your hearing distance that he was “thinking of her” when she called.  Yes, I definitly think you did the right thing.  Of course you’re jealous and who wouldn’t be when they care for a person and he’s doing that.  Especially going to another room so you wouldn’t hear what he was saying and then coming out and still talking to her.  Good riddance!

Sincerely,

Del

Dear Del,

well one day 2 years ago my boyfriend came to me and said he just wanted to be friends after 23 years of going together well we were still intimate even though he didnt think that meant anything he would be at my house everyday eating dinner with us and the kids sit on the porch for along time to me i was hoping we could get back together then i saw his truck parked at a womens house and confronted him and he said we are not together anymore we havent been together in 2 years wasnt that mean of him when we just had relations 2 days before so i ask for my key back and we no longer talk and i am devastated because he is all i new for 23 years

Dear Sheial,

Yes what he did was very mean, but you shouldn’t have stayed with him so long without getting married.   I’m sorry for your loss but you have to move on - go out with friends and try to meet someone else but for God’s sake don’t stay with anyone that long again without a ring on your finger!  Time heals all wounds.

Sincerely,

 Del

Dear Del,

what do you do for a broken heart?

Jinx

Dear Jinx,

Cry a lot (you must feel these feelings for it to be better to bear), keep very busy, go out with friends and try to meet someone else.  We’ve all been there and believe me, TIME DOES REALLY HEAL EVERYTHING!

Sincerely,

Del 

Dear Del,

I had been dating my girlfriend for 4 years, and then out of the blue, she broke up with me.  Now she won’t return my calls.  I have no idea what happened, but I’m afraid that she may have met someone else.  What should I do??

 John

Dear John,

First of all, how did she break up with you?  4 years is a long time and I trust she did it in person.  You don’t say what her reason was so I’m afraid I cannot give you a good answer but if she won’t return your calls that shows something is really wrong and without more info I cannot advise you further.

Sorry.

Sincerely,

Del