Dear Del,
hi…i’v been with my bf for 1 year and half…i love him so much and from his behaviors i can tell he feels the same way…however i have trust esues…i can not trust him at allll…even though we never cheated on me or anything else i just can not trust him…im always looking for an evidance of his cheating(i check his emails,his car..etc), i really need ur help…plz tell me what to do
Dear S,
If he hasn’t given you any reason to not trust him, then the problem is with you. For some reason, maybe in your childhood you had trust issues or were very insecure. You must still be very insecure to not trust him without reason. You are becoming (actually already are) one of those unfortunate women who are always checking up on their boyfriends (husbands, etc.) due to their own insecurities. If you cannot help yourself, I would seek out professional help as this is a problem from your past. Also, eventually he will find out about all your checking and you will probably lose him.
Sincerely,
Del